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Am I needy

The Difference Between Being Needy And Being Horny Revealed


If you’re asking yourself “Am I needy or just horny?”, this article might answer some of your questions. But wait. What a weird topic to write a blog article about, right? Yeah, I guess that’s true. But I believe many people are confused when it comes to their sexual feelings. In this article I’m going to draw the line between what I consider to be healthy sexuality and needy sexuality. And I’m also going to show you how to overcome neediness.

 

Am I Needy Or Just Horny?

The Feeling Of Being Horny

If you’re a sexually healthy man or a woman, being horny is a normal part of your daily life. Being horny simply means wanting sex with the same and/or opposite gender. But again, wanting sex is more than just a thought. It’s a genuine feeling of sexual attraction in your whole body. You might experience it as warm waves flushing through your body. Many people describe it as a feeling of being charged. Hormones get released in our body and we get a sense of exciting anticipation, a whole-body charge that’s waiting to be released by the pleasurable act of sex. The orgasm releases the body-charge, sets free our built up sexual energy and leaves us with a deep sensation of satisfaction and joy. Although horniness can be a very strong sensation and we can sometimes lose ourselves in it, there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s healthy and natural and you shouldn’t be concerned about it.

 

Am I needy?

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The Feeling Of Being Needy

While horniness is a natural and healthy part of our sexuality, neediness is our emotional attachment to sex. Being horny means being sexually charged and enjoying the release of  that energy. If you’re needy, it means that you’re seeking out validation from sexual interactions. Neediness equals the need for sexual validation. You need sex in order to know who you are. You need sex in order to feel worthy. Being needy is the ego part of sexuality. It means that you’re emotionally attached to the validation that sex is giving you. While horniness is a natural whole-body sensation, a sincere feeling of wanting sex, neediness is an ego-based form of validation-seeking through sexual experiences. When we’re horny and needy at the same time, things can get really ugly.

 

How To Lose Your Neediness

The only way to overcome your neediness is to stop seeking out sexual validation. As long as you need sexual experiences to feel like you’re a worthy human being, your sexuality will be driven by neediness. Learn to draw your sense of self from within and stop relying on other people (and your sexual interactions with them) to feel good. If you’re using sex as a source of validation, it means that you’re lacking real self-esteem. Find ways to build up your self-esteem that have nothing to do with sex. What are your talents? What are your values? What do you want to accomplish in life? What’s your purpose? Continuously learn to draw positive emotions and validation from within. Once you’ve stopped seeking out validation from the opposite sex, you can start to enjoy yourself and your sexuality a lot more. Your neediness will fade away more and more and you’ll be left with a sincere feeling of horniness. Remember: You want sex, but you don’t need it. If your interactions with girls or men don’t end up with sex, you won’t feel like a failure. You won’t feel bad. Everything is good. It’s just an energetic charge that wants to be released, but there’s no explosive emotional cocktail surrounding it. Sex and masturbating will become more real and more pleasurable. You won’t have to fill that black hole of self-worth all the time. No matter how much sex you have, you can never fill that hole. All you’re doing is stimulating yourself sexually and making yourself numb to your subconscious lack of self-esteem. Once you get rid of your neediness, you’ll be left with the pure pleasure and lasting fulfillment of sex. That’s the essence of healthy sexuality in my opinion.

Are you still asking yourself: “Am I needy or horny?” I hope this article answered your question.

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Till Boadella

Till, also known as 'Juan', is the C.E.O and Editor-inChief of Tiger Freedom. He's a normal dude in his mid-twenties. Living the freedom business lifestyle, passionate about self development. Hustling every day.

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